An old dating cliche may say that people are like magnets ¬ opposites attract ¬ but a team of scientists has found that this may not be the case, as people are attracted to those who have the same views and values as themselves.
Co-authored by researchers at Wellesley College and the University of Kansas, USA, the study could lead to a fundamental change in understanding relationship formation and breaks the notion that couples can change each other over time. The study’s most surprising finding may be that people in relationships do not change each other over time. Instead, lead authors Angela Bahns and Chris Crandall’s evidence places new emphasis on the earliest moments of a relationship, revealing that future friends or partners are already similar at the onset of their relationship.
Bahns said these findings could be seen as a cautionary message for people who believe they can persuade their friends or romantic partners to come around to their way of thinking; it’s easier to select people who are compatible with your needs and goals from the beginning.