Melbourne: With more than half of the population (51%) staking claim that love or finding ‘the one’ is their biggest priority in life – above children (20%), money (17%) and career (15%) – a new study into Australian singles has found that for the majority, it’s all talk and no action.
According to the 2015 eHarmony Relationship Study, 64% of singles claim their relationship status is due to ‘not having met the right person’, when in fact they are spending as little as one hour per week actively networking and looking for dates – that’s less than the time spent watching TV/movies (6.8 hours a week), exercising (3 hours) and even reading (2.5 hours). In fact, despite being the most determined to find love, women are dedicating half the amount of time than men, spending just 38 minutes a week.
”According to the latest research on the science of wellbeing, we need to have positive emotion, engaging activities, positive relationships, higher meaning and a sense of accomplishment in order to be really happy. So, it makes sense to invest in the quality relationships in our life. Whilst watching movies and reading can be enriching, wouldn’t it be better to invest more than an hour per week in finding and maintaining a great relationship?” says eHarmony’s Dating and Relationship Expert, Melanie Schilling.
As for why singles are putting so little effort into finding the one, despite 65% knowing they should be more strategic about dating, eHarmony’s study found that Hollywood could be creating an over-romanticised notion of what it is to fall in love.
Over half (55%) of respondents say films have influenced their perception of what love should be like, with movies like The Notebook and Love Actually most likely to have an impact. And just like in the movies, 65% of single Aussies believe that love is not something to search for, rather ‘love will find you’.
Low self-esteem is also a barrier for Aussies’ love lives, with more than a third (34%) of respondents admitting they don’t feel confident enough to date and a further 28% believing they’re not a good catch. (TIW)